Is it great to get money as a wedding gift?  Of course it is! What isn't great is asking for it or worse yet, having it printed on your wedding invitation "discreetly".  There is no discreet way to have it printed on your invitation.  It's like sending out invitations to a dinner party at your home and printing corner copy which reads "$20 per couple". 

Every professional wedding consultant or planner should acknowledge Emily Post's elegant statement.  " Some traditions never go out of style.  A few hold true.  No mention of gifts, even "no gifts, please" is ever made on a wedding invitation."  And this admonition holds doubly for cash.  Post goes on to say, "Sharing information on a wedding website is fine and the site may offer registry information."  The guideline is do not include registry or gift information on or with your invitation.

We do know that outside of the very formal traditional invitation where wording follows a time-honored formula, more and more couples are choosing new wording options.  The best advice for brides is that any wording they choose that is both "respectful of their guests and true to themselves will be fine."  (Emily Post) It is important that invitations read as correct grammatical statements and provide guests with all the information they need about who, when, where and how to reply.

Brides need to understand that there is no way to dictate to guests what they choose to give.  T It is fine to answer a close relative who asks her what she would like with an honest and polite reply that they are saving for a down payment on a house, but whatever that person selects should be appreciated and treasured.  Rely on parents and/or attendants to spread the word that cash gifts are appreciated and/or provide the information about where the couple are registered.

If you need answers to other etiquette questions feel free to contact TriniWeddings at 868 628-9333 or email info@triniweddings.com